I must confess... I'm still learning to take care of myself. Sure, I eat healthy, exercise, and get adequate sleep. When it comes to scheduling regular time just for myself, though, it is difficult for me. I tend to think it is luxury rather than necessity.
When my boys were younger, I wanted to attend one of the women's Bible study groups at my church. Because of my job, I could only attend the ones in the evening. They met around 7:00 pm - 9:00 pm for 1.5 - 2 hours every week. They offered a free childcare. I still didn't join the group. Why? - because it interfered with my boys' bedtime. Even when they became old enough to stay at home alone, I still didn't go because I felt like they deserved all my free time. If I wasn't doing something for them, like earning money to provide for them, I thought I should be with them or at least be home for them.
Years later, I started attending one of the women's groups at church. The first night I attended, I felt full emotionally and spiritually. It felt like I just had a good healthy meal. I realized I should have done it a long time ago even if that disrupted the boys' bedtime. By having a little time for myself, I would have been a much better mother for the boys. I think they would have been happier, too, having a happier mom.
I'm writing this as much for you as for myself. I was suffering from a severe shoulder pain last week. After my wonderful friend, Katie worked on my shoulder, it was much better. Then, I realized I need to schedule time for self-care. I need regular appointments for myself. I know for many people, taking care of themselves seems too expensive and a little selfish. I want to remind you (and me) that self-care will not only benefit you but your loved ones.
Self-care can be massage appointments, acupuncture treatments, pedicure, long bath, going out with friends, walk in the nature, or whatever fills your soul. It doesn't have to be expensive, but something just for you.
If you want Katie's massage, you can find her at Sherwood Family Chiropractic Clinic
Licensed acupuncturist, herbalist, and a mom of two wonderful boys who taught me a lot about unconditional love